It’s the National Day holiday in China, so I have the week off work. Originally I was planning to take this opportunity to dip down to India for a week (check one off my travel bucket list, aka the world map!), but a few weeks ago Nathan and I decided to stay in Chengdu. For one thing, we have a lot going on here right now. He’s working on early decision grad school applications, and I’ve got about a thousand balls in the air right now between teaching at the university, teaching teens, teaching kids, writing a novel, writing a textbook, writing this blog, planning my future…. But to be totally honest, we partially made the decision to stay because we were so damn tired of travelling.
Yeah, it happens! This summer we spent two months in America, and even though a couple of weeks of that time was spent at our respective parents’ homes, the whole thing felt like travel. When we were camping in California for several weeks, that was definitely travel. When we stayed in Colorado for almost a month, that was definitely travel. But this was also the first time we’ve been to our parents’ houses and had it distinctly not feel like home. (Makes sense, since we’ve been married and living 7,000 miles away for a year.) Then, when we finally did come back to China, we spent several weeks travelling around and hosting Nathan’s parents. Travelling is amazing, but it also gets fucking exhausting. I mean, at a deep level, in your soul.
In any case, I’m four days into our staycation now and I have to say we definitely made the right choice. It’s been a blast, and I’ve hit exactly the right balance between relaxed and productive—Saturday I spent hunched over my computer in my underwear all day, working, but Sunday I spent people-watching and strutting my stuff in one of the major shopping districts in the city! See? Life is all about balance.
Going to Chunxi Road (and the surrounding area) is a lot of fun because it’s always completely packed, and everyone is dressed in their best. People-watching is lowkey one of my favorite hobbies. It’s fun anywhere, any time, but it’s even more fun when you get to see people present their idea of their best selves. You can really tell a lot about a person by what they wear to impress others.
I wonder what you can tell about me.
The real reason yesterday was so much fun, though, is that I’m feeling really psychologically rejuvenated! This staycation gave me the time and space to figure some things out. You could say I’ve had an epiphany—or two! There’s no feeling like realizing that one phase of your life is over, and that you’re ready to move into the next. And there’s definitely no feeling like realizing that, for once, you have a really good idea of what that next phase is. It feels good!
And one thing I’ve learned in my life so far:
Feel good, look good.
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The Look (under $40 total):
Red crop top – Forever 21, white lace top – a discount clothes market near Chunxi Road (no tag), black pencil skirt – Goodwill (Body Central), black top tied over skirt – St. Vincent’s Dig and Save (The Big Shirt), shoes – Target, purse – a hole-in-the-wall shop in Chengdu, sunglasses – Goldmine Vintage in Boulder, CO